Guides
Guides on slow dating, letters and meeting safely
Practical, plain-spoken guides for people who want fewer, better conversations. Written by the team behind Linger Letters, a free iPhone app where you exchange one letter a day for seven days.
Slow dating: what it is and who it suitsSlow dating means setting a deliberate pace before you meet: fewer people, more time, more words. Here is how it works, what it costs you, and who it suits.Dating app fatigue: why it happens and what to tryFeeling worn out by dating apps is common. Here is what usually causes it, how to tell burnout from a bad week, and practical changes that help.How to write a first letter to someone you are getting to knowA practical guide to writing a warm, specific first letter or message to someone new: a simple structure, three examples under 500 characters, and mistakes to avoid.How long should you talk before meeting someone from online?There is no perfect number, but there is a useful principle: set a decision point in advance. How to choose one, what to look for, and how to say yes or no kindly.A first-meeting safety checklistA practical checklist for a first meeting with someone you met online: before you go, at the meeting, and how to leave if it does not feel right.25 questions for a thoughtful written exchangeTwenty-five open questions to start or deepen a written conversation with someone new, with tips for answering well and asking one back.